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This page will be your one-stop for quotes relating to the Sheldon Kennedy/Graham James case, as well as some of the most touching lines and exchanges from the made-for-TV movie, The Sheldon Kennedy Story.

Sheldon Kennedy

"The coach is so respected. Your parents send you away and say, 'Do what he says.' At that age, you listen. That's your first step if you want to play pro." (Ottawa Citizen, 1/9/97)

"You feel people are looking at you. I put up a shield. I didn't let anybody in. It's a very lonely way to feel. You never feel normal. You know something is wrong but you don't know why it is like that."
(Calgary Herald, 1/7/97)

"He considered me his wife. There was absolutely nowhere for me to turn. I had no one, nobody."
(Los Angeles Times, 1/7/97)

"He didn't even blink an eye," said Kennedy. "He kept me with him all the time. It was like we were married. It was unbelievable." (Calgary Herald, 1/7/97)

"You do not have a clue what to do," Kennedy said. "You tell your mom and she makes you come home. You tell your friends and they will just portray you as a gay guy. It is just a very scary thing."
(Detroit News, 1/7/97)

"It's difficult to discuss with anybody," Kennedy said. "It was difficult to discuss with my mom, dad, sister and brother. I went 13 years without discussing it with anybody." (Knight-Ridder, 1/9/97)

"I feel like I am 10 months old inside a 27-year-old body. You are learning to live again. You are learning to have friends. You have to learn to love and relax. ... I can't remember the last time I relaxed totally." (Tampa Tribune, 1/7/97)

"There's been a lot. Guys like Eric Lindros and Ron Hextall and Brian Skrudland. Eric Lindros was the first guy. He kind of pulled me out of the dressing room and said, 'I think what you're doing is great.' "He said if there was ever anything he could do, I should call him. That makes you feel really good." -- Sheldon Kennedy on the support he's had from all over the league since his story of sexual abuse broke out.

Graham James

"I offer no excuses. I blame nobody but myself. I was selfish. I am truly sorry that this happened." (Calgary Herald, 1/7/97)

"Did I expect Sheldon Kennedy to do this? Absolutely not. Sheldon and I were close...He legitimately cared. Not about (the sex), obviously. He cared. He knew I was lonely, and you know, that sort of registered as desperation. He cared enough to put up with limited things...I didn't think, at the time, that this was something that was bothering Sheldon. It wasn't that Sheldon was gay -- he's not gay. It wasn't that he enjoyed it -- he didn't. Maybe I'm just trying to legitimize things myself, but at no time did I think it was a major thing for him." (Ottawa Citizen, 1/8/97)

Friends and Family

"The coach is a godlike figure -- he holds all the cards. I guess in a situation like [Kennedy's] a kid can go home, but that is the end of your hockey career. That is the problem. There is no way to turn." (Washington Post, 1/8/97)

The Sheldon Kennedy Story
© 1999 CTV

"I want people to know that I'm the guy...guys don't like to talk about this stuff, so I wanna talk about it. I wanna talk about it for all of the guys that can't. My name's Sheldon Kennedy...and, um...Graham James...he stole something from me. He stole my innocence and...my love of the game. Kids always think that everything is...their fault, you know? And I guess I just had to learn to forgive myself. If it wasn't for my wife, Jana...what are we gonna do about these kids, eh? Because kids...they can't protect themselves. So that's what we have to do. They have to know it's okay to say 'Hey Mom....'. I just don't want any kids to feel the way I did." -- Sheldon to the Press

"What'd you mean when you said that he was bullshit?"
"Graham James."
"He's just a very manipulative man."
"What does he do?"
"Coaches...these mountains...here...when I was younger, I used to...I loved it out here."
"Did he ever coach you?"
"Yeah...doesn't get much better than this though, eh?"
"You always do this. You always change the subject whenever we start to talk about you."
"Okay, well, what do you want to know?"
"Well, here's something you probably don't know: sometimes, for no apparent reason, I just get on my bike and go for a ride!"
"Where are you going? Sheldon? Sheldon!"
--Exchange between Sheldon and Jana.

"He's still coaching? He's still coaching kids?!"
--Jana to Sheldon.

"All I've got in my life is hockey."
"You've got me."
"There's no way I'm telling anybody...I should have never told you!"
--Exchange between Sheldon and Jana.

"Do you have any idea what those guys would do to me if I told them?"
"Maybe show you some sympathy."
--Exchange between Sheldon and Jana

"I hate my skin."
"Sheldon, you have to forgive yourself...you were the child. I love your skin...I love you."
--Exchange between Sheldon and Jana